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Your First Phone Call to Russia – Romancing a Russian Bride

Merin — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 14:39:58 +0000

Online dating with Russian women is the best way to get in touch with genuine women who want to find loving husbands outside the Russian borders. But with all its advantages like seeing profiles, emails and live chat on Loversplanet.com, it is the first call you make to the woman of your interest that makes all the difference. Here are a few pointers on how to use Russian in that first phone call and what to talk about to a Russian woman to make that most important first impression.

Greetings Exchanged on Your First Phone Call to a Russian Woman

On the first exchange, it is best to be slightly formal even though you have been interacting online for quite some time. Unlike United States, formal tone in Russia is very important. Let the Russian woman take the lead when it comes to talking informally. However, you should lead the first conversation otherwise you will find yourself having to deal with uncomfortable silences.

In the West, it is quite common to say “How are you?” as a greeting to a complete stranger. The Russian version, “Kak pazhiVAYESH?” is only asked to people with whom you are quite familiar, so it is best avoided on a first phone call to a Russian woman. Again, try to be formal – this important because the woman expects you to be serious about your relationship and formality re-enforces your commitment, at least initially.

Phrases and Words on Your First Phone Call to a Russian Woman

Here’s what in our opinion you could talk about during your first phone call. You can try to speak Russian but don’t expect to be perfectly understood. Relax. Be calm – first conversation is always the hardest but remember – you are in the same boat with the lady, you are in the same team! It’s best to try to speak English and copy with a Russian phrases. Pause. Ask the lady if she understands you and make the conversation a great fun by trying to learn from each other and make sure you understand each other. Even if takes 10 minutes to get past the first sentence – it’s not about quantity, it’s about making your communication comfortable for both of you. Don’t expect your first phone call to be informative. You major goal is to remove any tension and feel that you are comfortable talking to each other despite cultural and language barriers.

To make your conversation comfortable you have to speak slowly. If a lady knows very little English you should use one sentence at a time. Use Skype to make cheap phone calls and not be worried about costs. With Skype it costs approx. $4.00 to talk for an hour! Do not try to provide to much information. Instead, pause after every sentence to remove any pressure from your conversation, ask if the lady understands you. If she doesn’t, try to work it out together. Even if you can’t work something out, make fun out of it and move on.

The most important words of course are: “Da” which is “Yes”, and “Nyet” which means “No”.

The next in importance are “SpaSEEBA”, which is “Thank you” and “EezveeNEEte” which means “Sorry”.

A few phrases which will help you interact better with a Russian woman or the first time (capital letter = stress):

ZdrAstvooyte = How do you do (formal)
DObroye OOtro = Good morning
DObreey VEcher = Good evening
DObriy Den’ = Good afternoon
Eto John = This is John
Ya zvonyU iz AmEriki / Anglii / GermAnii = I am calling from America / England / Germany
Ya plOho govoryU po RUsski = I speak poor Russian
Ya Ochen’ vol-nOO-yus’ = I am very excited
Ya bUdu govorIt’ myEdlenno = I will speak slowly
Vee menyA poneemAyete? = Do you understand me?
Kak skazAt’ po rOOsskee … = How would you say in Russian …
Kak skazAt’ po rOOsski “I like you” = How would you say “I like you” in Russian
Ya vas ne poneemAyu, prosteeteh = I don’t understand you, forgive me (polite)
No Eto normAl’no = but this is normal
Mne nrAvitsya govorIt s vAmee = I like talking with you
A vam? = And you?
PovtorEEtye pozAloosta = Repeat, please
Po anglEEyskee mee govorEEm … = In English we say …
Mne Ochen’ ponrAveelees’ vAshee pEEs’mah = I liked your letters very much
Vee Ochen’ krasEEvaya (na photogrAfeeyah) = You are very beautiful (in the photos)
Ya hochOO naitEE dEvooshkoo dlya zamOOzhestva = I’d like to find a lady for marriage
Ya hochOO sozdAt’ semyU = I’d like to create a family
Mne nOOzhno beh-zAt’ = I have to run
(No) ya pozvonyU vam zAvtra = (But) I will call you tomorrow
KogdA vam udObno? = What time is suitable for you?
V dEvyat / dEsyat vEchera po MoskvE / KIyevoo = At 9 / 10 in the evening Moscow / Kiev time?
Mne bEElo preeyAtno = It was a pleasure for me
Ya napeeshU vam pismO = I will write you a letter
SpokOinoi nOchee = Good night
SlAdkee-h Snov = Sweet dreams

If there is a phrase you’d like to know how to say in Russian or you’ve used in your first phone call and find it useful – leave a comment at the end of this post and we will get it translated.

Things to Do on Your First Phone Call to a Russian Woman (summary)

Speak slowly.

Do not get nervous. Create a relaxing environment around you, avoid distractions like television.

Fix a time which is mutually convenient. Use skype to keep your costs low.

Try and speak at least a few words of Russian. Pause after each sentence. Ask if the lady understands you.
Make your conversation comfortable – play the learning game: “How do you say … in Russian”

A Russian woman would really appreciate the effort you put into your first phone call by learning Russian phrases and words. If there is something either of you don’t understand – it’s normal. You can say “neh vazhno” which means it’s not important. “Vazno chto est’ vee eeh ya” – it’s important there are you and I.

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How to Find Suitable Russian Women for Marriage

Merin — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 15:33:59 +0000

Russian women are known the world over for their stunning beauty, loving nature, and strength in the face of adversity. Finding suitable Russian women for marriage can therefore be a challenging yet rewarding quest. Here are a few ways you can find the Russian love of your dreams.

Agencies that have a Database of Suitable Russian Women for Marriage

There are many marriage agencies based in Russia, Europe and the United States that work to match foreign men with Russian women. You can research on a reliable agency and let it shortlist several candidates for marriage, providing you what they term as mail order brides.

But this needs a great degree of caution, because a large number of marriage agencies are actually scams to lure foreign men to spend money, and they sometimes actually provide no service in exchange.

Dating Websites which Enable Meetings with Russian Women for Marriage

Loversplanet.com is a reputed dating website, with a long string of success stories. A lot of happily married foreign men have met their Russian soul mate at our portals. This is possible because of some of our exclusive facilities like live chat, which enables you to communicate in real time: you do not have to face long waits for replies.

Through our huge database of eligible Russian women with access to the internet, we at Loversplanet.com are best positioned to facilitate an encounter with that gorgeous woman you have always yearned for. This is ideal also because, in many cases, Russian women with at least basic English proficiency sign up at Lovers Planet dating website.

The online dating option at websites like our Loversplanet.com is safer because it allows you to communicate in relative anonymity. You can reveal as much or as little about yourself as you like, and can be sure to be safe from scam at all times.

Visiting Russia to Meet Suitable Russian Women for Marriage

There are a lot of agencies which arrange for tours to Russia specifically to meet Russian brides, so you can choose the one that is perfect for you.

We at Loversplanet.com however encourage you to first interact with a Russian woman online through chat and e-mail for a considerable duration before you make the plunge of traveling to Russia.

Finding a suitable Russian woman for marriage is a breeze with Loversplanet.com. Sign up now, and you will be able to interact with exquisite Russian women rightaway due to the size and quality of our dating pool of eligible Russian women.

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Long Distance Russian Dating Techniques

Sara — Tue, 10 Jul 2007 02:54:45 +0000

If you have decided to broaden your horizons in your search for the perfect woman to date and potentially marry you may have decided to try to meet some Russian women. If you are in Russia, this will make your task much easier. If you are not Russian, and you are located in another country or continent entirely then you have a couple options open to you in terms of Russian dating.

You could just take a couple of weeks and go to Russia and do traditional dating activities like dining, dancing and checking out the local culture, but chances are you do not have the luxury of taking a couple weeks out of your life to get to know someone a half a world away. Most Russian women look for financial stability in a potential mate, so that means you’ll be more attractive to them if you are hard working and earning money.

Fortunately with the internet and telephone you can reach out to attractive single Russian women and cultivate a Russian dating situation using those methods until you meet someone that you want to arrange to meet in person. There are many ways to meet Russian women; some are discussed in Russian Dating section. Once you decide how to go about it, you need to communicate to the lady that you are serious about potentially meeting her and that you are not just looking for a pen pal. It may be dating, but Russian dating is serious and usually leads to marriage.

Email is an easy way to meet and stay in touch, but seriously, a handwritten letter will really win a Russian woman over. You may also want to think about using a translation service to communicate with her in Russian. You should initially address Russian women with a “Hi” or “Hello” in your communications, save “Dear” for later after you know her much better. Things that Russian women will want to know about you are your weight, height and age as well as your martial status, if you have children, your educational level and profession and if you smoke or drink. You’ll also want to mention your hobbies, religion and where you live. You must really try to be yourself to catch the interest of Russian woman in order to date her. And remember: the best place to start your Russian online Dating is right here, at Lovers Planet!

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How to find a mail order wife online and get married

Sharon — Mon, 25 Dec 2006 13:26:55 +0000

Q: I am inquiring about mail order wife. I want very much to be married, what are the steps going forward? Thank you.

A: Finding a wife online is very similar to meeting someone special in real life – it requires a strategy and, more importantly, it requires making an effort. Internet and online dating is merely a medium that facilitates the process of meeting other singles. It is important to understand that it does not provide a magic solution.

Mail order brides are often seen as a product, whereby you can literally pay for a bride online and have it delivered to you by mail. Does it make sense? Surely it doesn’t! An international dating service can provide you with the tools to find a wife, overcoming the geographical boundaries and cultural barriers. One thing a dating site cannot do is to send you marriage by mail, irrespective of the price you are willing to pay.

In this sense the concepts of “mail order bride” and “mail order wife” are incorrect by definition. You have to make an effort to find a suitable partner and develop a relationship yourself. Each relationship is different and the time required to go from the starting point to the actual marriage is different.

Below you will find some common sense steps that can be part of a successful strategy and will help you find a Russian wife and subsequently develop a relationship that will lead to marriage.

1. Start with finding a reputable dating service

If you do some research on Google you will find plenty of advice on what makes a dating service reputable. Beware, however, to focus on the right indicators.

For example, a telephone number and address printed on the website are important, but a service that merely includes contact information may not be good at delivering results. Things that may be more important are the site’s testimonials section, photographs of other members who have succeeded in finding a relationship on that specific dating site. See a good example of this here: Russian Dating Success Stories.

Most dating websites use general images of couples. These images can easily be bought from various professional photo resellers. These are not actual couples. It is usually possible to tell a difference by looking at these photos – if they look too professional, they may not be real. It is a good idea to ask the dating service if you can get in contact with any of the members listed in their testimonials section. While a reputable dating service is unlikely to provide you with direct contact information, they may contact a specific (ex-) member and ask this member to contact you. That is, of course, if the members mentioned in their testimonials are real.

Every testimonial on Loversplanet.com is genuine. If you are willing to contact any of the members, we can ask them to discuss their experience with you directly.

2. Avoid traditional marriage agencies

Most traditional marriage agencies act as a middle man in a potential relationship. They are biased to making your communication as lengthy as possible because they make money from translation and other related services such as letter forwarding services. You would have to pay for these services because you don’t get to contact women directly – they are not online! Would you want all your correspondence to be read and forwarded by a third party? Are you sure that their translation is a good reflection of your messages? And, most importantly, at some point in time you will have to communicate directly – you are very likely to be starting a completely new relationship with someone, it turns out, you barely know…

At Loversplanet.com every member is required to post a dating profile personally. We do not provide letter translation or letter forwarding services – you are communicating directly with the other person. This removes the surprise factor from your relationship in the future. All female members are required to provide a personal statement in English and send initial messages in English. This means they need to have at least basic understanding of English or be willing to learn and make an effort to communicate in your language from the beginning. Experience shows, that language barriers can be a negative factor in developing a relationship and we strongly advice you to start your communication in English. Learning Russian can also be a fun experience provided your future Russian wife gives you a hand.

3. Use a dating service that markets their services directly to female members

Unlike Loversplanet.com, many online dating websites use local marriage agencies to market their services to Eastern European women. This has some advantages, for example, local agencies with local presence are less attractive targets for scammers. However, there are numerous cases of scam involving major (reputable) dating services that work with local marriage agencies. This happens because local marriage agencies are often small companies that are themselves involved in scam and fraud. Any reputable dating service working with hundreds of local agencies inevitably faces a problem of control and supervision of these divisions that are outside their own business.

In addition, the more companies you have between you and your Russian bride, the more expensive it is to carry out communication and search for a wife. Not to mention that it is extremely time consuming: as you wait for your messages to be translated and then forwarded, you or your partner may become discouraged to proceed with a relationship.

4. Create a free dating profile and start communicating

Once you are comfortable with the dating service the first most important step is to complete free registration and submit your photographs. A free profile will be created that will include your personal statement, your interests and general information about you. Posting a profile is important because thousands of Russian women registered on the website will be able to find you and look at your information and photos. Photos substantially increase the likelihood of your profile to be found and influence directly your response rate.

Russian women that are interested in you can add your dating profile to their Hot List or send you a message. On Loversplanet.com all services for Russian women are free. All Eastern European women can contact you without a subscription.

As a free member you can see those female members that have added you to their Hot List or simply viewed your dating profile. This makes your search considerably easier as you can now choose from a few dozen Russian brides that are actually interested in you, rather than thousands of women registered on the website.

5. Get a subscription

When you identify one or two Russian ladies that have a potential to become your future wife, you may proceed to purchase a subscription. Subscription allows you to send non-standard messages. These messages are not censored and you can exchange contact information. Loversplanet.com does not sell or disclose members’ contact information. There are no “per message” fees. Contact information can only become available to specific members if you provide it in your messages.

Choosing a subscription package is entirely up to you. Some members on Loversplanet.com have found a partner within a few weeks after purchasing a 1 month subscription. Others used this dating service for several months. We would recommend getting at least 3 months subscription package to make sure you have enough time to find a wife. More cost-effective options are 6 and 12 months subscription packages.

6. Take time to get to know your Russian wife

You can then proceed with your communication using a regular email service. You can exchange phone numbers and make phone calls. With companies like Skype, international calling is not as expensive as it used to be in the past. Take time to get to know your Russian wife and exchange as many photographs as possible. Ask a lot of questions, find out as much as you can about your future partner, her lifestyle and attitudes before you decide to meet in person.

7. Beware of scammers

Avoid sending money to anyone you meet online. At Loversplanet.com we have developed the most advanced anti-scam policies in the industry. However, no policy can be fool-proof. Credit card companies and banks invest substantial sums of money to fight credit card fraud, however, we still hear about identity theft almost daily. As long as there is a market for scam and fraud, scam artists will exists and look for ways to overcome anti-scam policies. To protect yourself, use common sense and never send money to someone you hardly know. If you do decide to help a lady with traveling abroad to meet you, please use a local licensed travel agent in your country and send the tickets in her name, not cash. If you have questions about travel visas, contact the local consulate of the foreign country. The best option, however, is to visit the lady as in many cases it would be difficult for a single lady to obtain a travel visa.

8. Travel to Russia to meet your Russian bride

If you are serious about getting married and you are determined to take further steps, visiting the lady in Russia is the best option. Do not expect the lady to come and visit you in US, Canada, UK or any other country. There are several reasons for that:

In most cases men are expected to pay for travel. This exposes you to scam risk which is impossible to avoid completely. A lot of men are looking into ways of making sure the lady they are willing to invite over is legitimate – it is impossible to predict any person’s intentions in a setting where you are sending cash. Even a legitimate lady can simply change her mind.
It is very difficult for a single Eastern European lady to obtain a travel visa to a major foreign country such as US, UK, Canada, etc. If the lady does not have an extensive track record of traveling abroad, does not own property and does not have a well paid job – she is unlikely to be approved for a travel visa. Beware of females who claim that they have obtained the visa already – this trick is often used by scammers. Contact a local consulate for more help.

Travel visa issue becomes less of a problem after you visit the lady in her own country. Depending on where you come from, you will have several options to proceed with making travel arrangements for your Russian wife. For example you can apply for a fiancée visa which requires that you meet your bride at least once before you submit application (USA). You can also visit your country’s local Embassy with the lady – it may help to demonstrate that the lady anticipates traveling with you.

Consider traveling to Russia! Find the time to build your relationship and create a family. Isn’t it worth it? Among other things, Russia is a wonderful country to visit – it has fascinating history and major cultural heritage. It also has a well-developed infrastructure for tourism. You will find a great variety of hotel accommodation and restaurants to accommodate any budget. And finally, you will be able to meet a lot of beautiful, marriage-minded Russian girls! This is important if you do not find a suitable match on Loversplanet.com, which is highly unlikely of course! If you are willing to find a Russian wife you are at the right place.

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But do they work? Marriage rates and Visas made easy

Sara — Sat, 25 Nov 2006 22:51:52 +0000

Amidst all the debate about immigration here in the United States, the media has trotted out some sob stories about couples who wed only to see their relationship crumble. Pressures from family back home, the attempt to make both cultures work at the same time, unrealistic expectations. Some of these news stories make these marriages look like Greek tragedies. But is there truth to these stories? Well, for marriages made on sites like this one: the answer is a resounding NO!

According to the United States Immigration service, these marriages made through services like offered on LoversPlanet.com, “have a lower divorce rate than the nation as a whole”. Compared to about 50 percent for regular American-American relationships, more than 80 percent of the types of relationships being formed here, now have lasted during the time the bureau studied them. Anywhere between four to six thousand men and women will meet up with that perfect somebody every year.

Here’s how these relationships are different from those sob stories on the news: The U.S. immigration service offers what’s called a K-1 Visa (also known as the “fiancée visa”). It may sound like a credit card offer, but it’s actually a new way to make the process of bringing your fiancée here. Established in 2000, the process involves filing an application and an interview at a consulate’s office, among other things. More information is available by clicking here. And the wait? Usually about five to six months. Compared to the way the process used to work, this is a huge improvement and a huge opportunity.

For a step-by-step guide on the process, try this site. It has an easy and readable flow chart that will walk you through the process.

But, if you’re eager to visit now and to make sure the relationship works, visitor visas are much easier to obtain. Check back in to this site for more information!

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