How to find a mail order wife online and get married
Q: I am inquiring about mail order wife. I want very much to be married, what are the steps going forward? Thank you.
A: Finding a wife online is very similar to meeting someone special in real life – it requires a strategy and, more importantly, it requires making an effort. Internet and online dating is merely a medium that facilitates the process of meeting other singles. It is important to understand that it does not provide a magic solution.
Mail order brides are often seen as a product, whereby you can literally pay for a bride online and have it delivered to you by mail. Does it make sense? Surely it doesn’t! An international dating service can provide you with the tools to find a wife, overcoming the geographical boundaries and cultural barriers. One thing a dating site cannot do is to send you marriage by mail, irrespective of the price you are willing to pay.
In this sense the concepts of “mail order bride” and “mail order wife” are incorrect by definition. You have to make an effort to find a suitable partner and develop a relationship yourself. Each relationship is different and the time required to go from the starting point to the actual marriage is different.
Below you will find some common sense steps that can be part of a successful strategy and will help you find a Russian wife and subsequently develop a relationship that will lead to marriage.
1. Start with finding a reputable dating service
If you do some research on Google you will find plenty of advice on what makes a dating service reputable. Beware, however, to focus on the right indicators.
For example, a telephone number and address printed on the website are important, but a service that merely includes contact information may not be good at delivering results. Things that may be more important are the site’s testimonials section, photographs of other members who have succeeded in finding a relationship on that specific dating site. See a good example of this here: Russian Dating Success Stories.
Most dating websites use general images of couples. These images can easily be bought from various professional photo resellers. These are not actual couples. It is usually possible to tell a difference by looking at these photos – if they look too professional, they may not be real. It is a good idea to ask the dating service if you can get in contact with any of the members listed in their testimonials section. While a reputable dating service is unlikely to provide you with direct contact information, they may contact a specific (ex-) member and ask this member to contact you. That is, of course, if the members mentioned in their testimonials are real.
Every testimonial on Loversplanet.com is genuine. If you are willing to contact any of the members, we can ask them to discuss their experience with you directly.
2. Avoid traditional marriage agencies
Most traditional marriage agencies act as a middle man in a potential relationship. They are biased to making your communication as lengthy as possible because they make money from translation and other related services such as letter forwarding services. You would have to pay for these services because you don’t get to contact women directly - they are not online! Would you want all your correspondence to be read and forwarded by a third party? Are you sure that their translation is a good reflection of your messages? And, most importantly, at some point in time you will have to communicate directly – you are very likely to be starting a completely new relationship with someone, it turns out, you barely know…
At Loversplanet.com every member is required to post a dating profile personally. We do not provide letter translation or letter forwarding services – you are communicating directly with the other person. This removes the surprise factor from your relationship in the future. All female members are required to provide a personal statement in English and send initial messages in English. This means they need to have at least basic understanding of English or be willing to learn and make an effort to communicate in your language from the beginning. Experience shows, that language barriers can be a negative factor in developing a relationship and we strongly advice you to start your communication in English. Learning Russian can also be a fun experience provided your future Russian wife gives you a hand.
3. Use a dating service that markets their services directly to female members
Unlike Loversplanet.com, many online dating websites use local marriage agencies to market their services to Eastern European women. This has some advantages, for example, local agencies with local presence are less attractive targets for scammers. However, there are numerous cases of scam involving major (reputable) dating services that work with local marriage agencies. This happens because local marriage agencies are often small companies that are themselves involved in scam and fraud. Any reputable dating service working with hundreds of local agencies inevitably faces a problem of control and supervision of these divisions that are outside their own business.
In addition, the more companies you have between you and your Russian bride, the more expensive it is to carry out communication and search for a wife. Not to mention that it is extremely time consuming: as you wait for your messages to be translated and then forwarded, you or your partner may become discouraged to proceed with a relationship.
4. Create a free dating profile and start communicating
Once you are comfortable with the dating service the first most important step is to complete free registration and submit your photographs. A free profile will be created that will include your personal statement, your interests and general information about you. Posting a profile is important because thousands of Russian women registered on the website will be able to find you and look at your information and photos. Photos substantially increase the likelihood of your profile to be found and influence directly your response rate.
Russian women that are interested in you can add your dating profile to their Hot List or send you a message. On Loversplanet.com all services for Russian women are free. All Eastern European women can contact you without a subscription.
As a free member you can see those female members that have added you to their Hot List or simply viewed your dating profile. This makes your search considerably easier as you can now choose from a few dozen Russian brides that are actually interested in you, rather than thousands of women registered on the website.
5. Get a subscription
When you identify one or two Russian ladies that have a potential to become your future wife, you may proceed to purchase a subscription. Subscription allows you to send non-standard messages. These messages are not censored and you can exchange contact information. Loversplanet.com does not sell or disclose members’ contact information. There are no “per message fees”. Contact information can only become available to specific members if you provide it in your messages.
Choosing a subscription package is entirely up to you. Some members on Loversplanet.com have found a partner within a few weeks after purchasing a 1 month subscription. Others used this dating service for several months. We would recommend getting at least 3 months subscription package to make sure you have enough time to find a wife. More cost-effective options are 6 and 12 months subscription packages.
6. Take time to get to know your Russian wife
You can then proceed with your communication using a regular email service. You can exchange phone numbers and make phone calls. With companies like Skype, international calling is not as expensive as it used to be in the past. Take time to get to know your Russian wife and exchange as many photographs as possible. Ask a lot of questions, find out as much as you can about your future partner, her lifestyle and attitudes before you decide to meet in person.
7. Beware of scammers
Avoid sending money to anyone you meet online. At Loversplanet.com we have developed the most advanced anti-scam policies in the industry. However, no policy can be fool-proof. Credit card companies and banks invest substantial sums of money to fight credit card fraud, however, we still hear about identity theft almost daily. As long as there is a market for scam and fraud, scam artists will exists and look for ways to overcome anti-scam policies. To protect yourself, use common sense and never send money to someone you hardly know. If you do decide to help a lady with traveling abroad to meet you, please use a local licensed travel agent in your country and send the tickets in her name, not cash. If you have questions about travel visas, contact the local consulate of the foreign country. The best option, however, is to visit the lady as in many cases it would be difficult for a single lady to obtain a travel visa.
8. Travel to Russia to meet your Russian bride
If you are serious about getting married and you are determined to take further steps, visiting the lady in Russia is the best option. Do not expect the lady to come and visit you in US, Canada, UK or any other country. There are several reasons for that:
- In most cases men are expected to pay for travel. This exposes you to scam risk which is impossible to avoid completely. A lot of men are looking into ways of making sure the lady they are willing to invite over is legitimate – it is impossible to predict any person’s intentions in a setting where you are sending cash. Even a legitimate lady can simply change her mind.
- It is very difficult for a single Eastern European lady to obtain a travel visa to a major foreign country such as US, UK, Canada, etc. If the lady does not have an extensive track record of traveling abroad, does not own property and does not have a well paid job – she is unlikely to be approved for a travel visa. Beware of females who claim that they have obtained the visa already – this trick is often used by scammers. Contact a local consulate for more help.
Travel visa issue becomes less of a problem after you visit the lady in her own country. Depending on where you come from, you will have several options to proceed with making travel arrangements for your Russian wife. For example you can apply for a fiancée visa which requires that you meet your bride at least once before you submit application (USA). You can also visit your country’s local Embassy with the lady - it may help to demonstrate that the lady anticipates traveling with you.
Consider traveling to Russia! Find the time to build your relationship and create a family. Isn’t it worth it? Among other things, Russia is a wonderful country to visit – it has fascinating history and major cultural heritage. It also has a well-developed infrastructure for tourism. You will find a great variety of hotel accommodation and restaurants to accommodate any budget. And finally, you will be able to meet a lot of beautiful, marriage-minded Russian girls! This is important if you do not find a suitable match on Loversplanet.com, which is highly unlikely of course! If you are willing to find a Russian wife you are at the right place.
Tags: Dating Service, International Dating, Mail Order Brides, Marriage, Marriage Agencies, Russian wife, Russian Women
March 31st, 2008 at 10:48 am
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