Divorce in America

I know this is a "success" forum. But my post wasn't allowed in the other forum. I would be interested in hearing short divorce stories especially about foreign ladies in USA. What happens to her after the divorce, assuming she has gotten green card. Does she live in minimum wage poverty? Does she rush into marriage with another man to avoid that? Does she leave a man 20 years older than her to find love of a younger man? Does she return to her former country? Ladies need to consider this also as 50% of marriages in USA end in divorce, and make a wise decision in the man they choose.

My ex-russian wife was married to me 3 1/2 years. She left one night after deciding she wanted to be a single woman. Be careful of the russian friends your wife makes over here. My wife's friends were a bunch of divorced russian woman who liiked to party. Anyway, once they have there green card they might as well be a full-fledged citizen, it just takes them a few years longer to get it.

P.S - she's 25 and i'm 28. She just found another guy who made more money then me and thats all it took

its nice to think all marriage are based on love... that may be the case for the majority of the men here.... but women......?? i hate to say this, i think most women see a marriage as a financial opportunity, sit back relax and watch some kill themselves to provide for you.

i am married to a Russian, 3 year maybe happy and 6 years miserable, we divorced....

please guys do not foll yourselves into beileving the woman you meet si truly in love, she may be?? but more than likely, your wallet and passport are the only things he is interested in...

wowowow You know all russian women? why you tell about all? I'ts a pity that you have found such, but still I wish you found right woman.
If you have such opinion about us - you know nothing about russian women.
Good luck.

hmmmm...Do you really wait the woman shall kill herself to provide for you? If you are not going to be a provider and the main person in the family don't build the family at all....be alone and provide only yourself.
We have such men at the country also - they drink vodka, live as they want... only for his own pleasure...but no woman wants to build a family with such men.
Everything in your hands you choose the life you want...you want to come home and meet lovely eyes and the person who glad to see you - so you build your good relations and nice family...if you want to come home and alone watch TV with the beer - this is also only your choise

Hey guys, foreign women are not as bad as you think. If you take the necessary time and get to know them, then you can choose the one that is right for you. Think with your heart not your brains down below. Foreign women have many advantages over American women, they still have values. American women have become to materialistic and career minded. Maybe that is our fought, but they have to be blamed as much as us men. If you have spent some time in the Ukraine, especially and learn about their culture, you will find that most women there are looking for happiness and a caring man to share that happiness with. I have found that most are not looking for their meal ticket to America. Most are looking for that one man that can care for them when they are sad and do the same for you in return. American men traditionally think or feel with something other than their heart. The best advice that I can give from my experiences so far, it is best to treat your correspondence as if she lived near you and you were on a date with her. Act normally, your daily moods and all and express your feelings and concerns and see how she reacts, as you would do to her American counterparts. Her reactions to your moods with tell you a lot about the person you have an interest in. Because of translation, you may have to read and reread what she is trying to tell you about your feelings or concerns. You must remember that she also has had a bad relationship or two in her life. But you also need to listen and be considerate of her concerns also. Mutual understanding, respect, compromise and your your ability to yield to her thoughts can go a long way in having a very successful and happy life together.

This is bang on accurate . I spent 2 weeks with a fantastic girl ,perhaps i am lucky but i did exactly that i had conversations with her in skype just like she lived around the corner. I will be honest until i actually met her face to face and spent time with her i did have a little bit of sceptisim in the back of my mind ,im english rather than american.
I will be returning to the ukraine in about 6 weeks and cannot say anything bad ,perhaps the language barrier can be a little frustating but she is learning english ,very intelligent ,a great sense of humour and just wants to be loved and prepared to give so much in return.

I could be just very very lucky ,but i can 100% assure you that they are there ,real women who want real relationships. Not for money but for love.

If anyone is planning a trip let me know i will be happy to provide any tips for you .

Hope you have as much luck as my ,i feel very fortunate and just hope things turn out as i hope in the long run .

Good luck all

I envy your happiness. Nice to know that two loving people have found each other.
Good luck for everybody!

I have been married for 1 year to a wonderful lady. She, her daughter, and I are very happy. But in the course of my search for a Russian wife I met a number of divorced Russian women in the US. In general, they were unhappy and struggling. I think they made bad choices when they said yes to a man who was not right. Or perhaps THEY were not right. I realize there are some opportunist women out there, but most that I have communicated with are sincere and good women. Through my wife's contacts I have met a dozen more Russians (and Ukrainians) who have happy relationships. Based on my small sample (15 relationships I know about), the batting average is better than made in America marriages. I know someone right now who is talking to a lady on this site. I don't think any lady could be happy with him, but it's not my place to contact her and express an opinion. He drives me crazy with insecure questions and his general personality. He doesn't use drugs, but he acts like drug users sometimes act. Maybe his lady will put up with him in order to get to America. I wish the best for her. I still visit the site because it has been such a positive experience for me.

Questions to first speakers: Guys, are you really so dump or ugly that your ex-wifes were interested in your wallet or green card only?

>>Questions to first speakers: Guys, are you really so dump or ugly that your ex-wifes were interested in your wallet or green card only?

Hi July_Sv,

No.
Not dumb.
Not ugly.

Just that my ex-wife's interests only included:
a) spending more green stuff than I had in my wallet to pay for
b) getting green card
c) searching for greener pasture

Not necessarily in that order.

Signed,
Guy-For-July

rogerm222, so if you were not ugly or dump(at least in her opinion), why she didn't continue to live with you after obtaining the green card?

Guys, do you really think that loosing a couple of years with the man you never liked at all for obtaining that card is a good deal?
I see here to possible answers- she is from some starving village,with 3 children , dreaming to get out at least somewhere
- she likes the guy to some extend, but of course limited time & language ability are not the best helpers for getting deeper into personality. After some time it becomes clear that it was mistake. In this case she obtains a card as no one really wants 2 start everything from the beginning.

I know it is not maybe very polite to ask but it is so interesting to know...may I ask???
What did she ask the green stuff for??? to buy the island??? What couldn't you provide? or didn't want???
Boys maybe you think it is not important to buy something (it is useless thing at the house) but your lady thinks she would live better if she has this thing - or maybe she wants to help her relatives. You say "no" onec, twice and as a result get unhappy dissapointed wife
Maybe the Charts Taro or just this nice skirt (not that which is more cheap) could make her to feel herself happy with you ( even if you think that the skirts are common at all). Was it really something that you couldn't give???

>>What did she ask the green stuff for??? to buy the island???
>>What couldn't you provide? or didn't want???

Hi Olga.

Very simple.
Intelligent people:
a) prepare a budget and know how much many is available to spend each month
b) plan ahead how to save or spend the extra money
Stupid people:
a) spend, spend, spend
b) at end of month struggle to find a way to pay for it.
A steady pattern of stupid spending for many months is something I refuse to deal with.
Buy her a 1-carat ring and she complains because the lady down the street has 2 carat.
Buy a 1-story house and she complains because the ladies down the street have 2-story houses.
Have a Las Vegas vacation and she complains because her friend went to Paris for vacation.
etc, etc, etc, always searching for greener pasture...

July:
Yes, it is very difficult to understand a ladies personality if you don't speak her language.
Yes, after some time it becomes clear that it was mistake...

rogerm222..

Just curious how long you knew this woman before your marriage to her, seems her spending habits would be obvious from the start. just my opinion......