20-year old woman?

Lymargo1!

Actually she found me, imagine that I'm too active for a woman of age closer to mine, this has already been proven in my case, I have dated women in there 20's, 30's, 40's and yes even same age as me, to me the later was a bore. I'm sorry if this seems aggressive to you, maybe you are not very active as well, and I don't mean only sexual....as we say in america if the shoe fits wear it. good luck to you with your compatibility efforts and thank you for the kind words......

Sorry I ask but what can be cynical in my main ideas as:
1. the age difference 10-15 years is the best if the man is near 50
2. ok may be the difference 20 years, if the man near 40
3. it is any way subjuctive and there are different cases
4. sexually transmitted diseases are possible if you are going to change (meet) girls often
5. good if the man in his 50 rather active for his young wife who is less than 30 ... but if not?

Sorry I didn't guess that we discuss just my profile...I thought that the topic is "20 years young girls". May be we shall open new topics - "Olga and her profile"?? or "Shall Olga try a young boy?"

I prefer woman closer to my age or with in 10 years of my age. I think there is more maturity, and easier to be computable when dating a woman of a similar age.

The communication is greater, the understand is stronger, and generally the goals are more equal, and easier to accomplish.

with maturity comes along a stronger chemistry and for the most, there are fewer games. the lover is stronger, and the sex can be more passionate

This is my third post. Does that mean I'm becoming a junkie? I'm 67 and having a birthday in January. The wife I found on this site is 33. When we were first corresponding I asked Lyuda many times in various ways if she was sure she could be happy with a man my age. I laid out our ages (and her daughter's age) in 3 columns and added remarks in another column. How old would I be when Tonya graduated from university? When she got married if she married at 30? I asked 12-year old Tonya for her opinion, too. Both of them convinced me that the age difference would work from their point of view...and our 15 months together have certainly been fabulous. Our age spread would not work for everyone, but it is no problem for us. I like being a teacher and protector for young people. To me, they are as interesting as older people but in different ways. Some people (I was one) are mature as teenagers and young at heart as senior citizens. Some are immature throughout their life. So it's a matter of finding a suitable match, not just chronology. By the way, I can't stand Tonya's taste in music and I don't like piercings and tattoos, but those aren't really the things that matter. I enjoy helping her with homework. We enjoy jokes and other types of humor. We love our family Chihuahua. In general, I enjoy making Lyuda and Tonya happy. Follow your own instincts...I hope you do as well as I have. By the way, the public sometimes thinks my wife is my daughter; but usually they see her as my loving wife.

WOW solarb! Almost 35 years between you, good luck to you! I read your story, very nice...

Thanks Solarb you are a wonderful example!!!

Yes, it is a good example... Certainly, people can live together even at such difference in the age of and enjoy a society each other. Why not? But I think, it is a good example only for those who thinks only forward for 2-3 years, no more.
But if somebody is going to be happy and in ten years... He: 67+10 =77. She: 33+10=43. This woman will live a happy active life with her husband? Or we shall hear one more history about divorce in America, how in the next topic?
Probably, me will name cynical. But, probably, it only more real outlook on life and attitudes. Nevertheless, my best wishes to Solarb and his wife.

I wish Solarb happiness also, and I do want to say... life is not always so linear, it is not always a strait line. There are no guarantees in life!!... and anything is possible. Simply because Solarb is older does not absolutely mean he will be the one that slows down, or becomes unhealthy. In 10 years he could very well be the strong person in his relationship.

I am 52.. and even at my age I have many friends that are no longer alive or healthy, yet my Father who is 84, works every day, takes long walks and has a very quick mind and could probably do almost anything he desires.

I think we should be thankful for every day, accept happiness where we find it and always do our best to bring joy to those around us; because we never know what day could bring change.

How it is said?
Don't think what was - it is past and nothing can be changed.
Don't think what would be - because it is future and never can come in such way as you think.
Live only now and today enjoy what you have just at this moment.

To think what would be with this couple 10 years later is useless now. Today we can see two happy persons (sorry 3 happy persons).
As for me at this case I don't see: "I have to kill myself in order to provide my family", I don't see also: "use young hotties while they are sexy", I don't see even: "make her a child and leave alone to solve her problems"
I see a nice real man who is happy because his lovely people are happy...he does as much as he can and I am sure he gets in return the same - and no age difference can be a barrier. They have a life full of love just now.

Boys but I am still sure that the difference 10-15 years is the best...just for you not to have the whole life thoughts as if you are gilty that she is so young have to spend her best years with you (and something like that ) - it is written that women sometimes like to use this argument in disputes

Thanks to those who commented. I've been looking for a good wife all my life. My parents had 5 kids and as the oldest I had to change diapers, clean the house, not have much of a life, and watch my parents fight all the time. That is the basis from which I have been searching for love (a psychologist would say it was not the best start). I had failed marriages #1 and #2 in my search for what I finally found in Russia. By the way, I went there twice in the days when we only had snail mail. Letters took 1 month each way. I went to Yuzhno Sakhalinsk, Moscow, and Ykaterinberg...met 2 nice ladies but did not marry either one. I also got conned out of $2,400 by a guy who posed as a Russian woman. Even that added to my "preparation." Tonya is upstairs right now playing with a teenager from Thailand. Lyuda is studying English with our dog in her lap. I'm enjoying by LoversPlanet hobby. We'll drive to Jacksonville this weekend and go to a beach they haven't seen yet. They'll watch movies as we drive. Life is good. I will be pretty frail by the time I am 85 (based on seeing my mother). Lyuda has seen her and we've talked about those days. She INSISTS it is not a problem. I take her at her word. I don't plan to lose my brain because I live a healthy life, stay active in business, and am an avid reader.

I hate to see you guys arguing/debating the quality of these women and their reasons for being on the site. I started writing (by mail) to Russian women before there was an Internet and I visited Russia twice as part of my search. One woman was too young (in her opinion) to leave home. She said she would marry me in two years. The next trip I met a wonderful doctor but felt she and I were not a good match. I said goodbye and burst her dreams -- a very painful experience. They were both HIGH QUALITY women and their motives were genuine. This morning I received an email from a Ukrainian lady. She said my postings gave her hope and wished me luck with my wife and daughter. That, in my opinion, is the typical woman on this site. She has a dream -- the odds are against her because there are so many high quality women -- but this site gives her hope. My hunch is that the women on this site are not very proactive about writing to men. My suspicion is that they mostly wait to be contacted. Ladies, I urge you to write a nice intro (fairly short) and send it to the men who interest you. Add a comment about their profile or location so they will not think you have used a form letter. If you don't speak English, use the translator and do your best. Keep your statements short and the translator software will be more accurate.

Simon, you are my hero!

My apologies for such a delayed response. I have been gone at work for two weeks. No internet access at work... and no phone, running water, electricity, etc.. As you can imagine, I look forward to getting home and enjoying my life ALONE! I am joking of course (about enjoying the "alone" part). The rest is all true!

At work I spend my days helping young people fix their lives. At night I sleep in a crowded tent full of these young hooligans discussing matters that concern young folks whose lives are off track and playing a few tunes on my harmonica. I am a wilderness therapy counselor. I spend more days at work than I do living my own life. Ergo, I spend most of my life engaged in the activity of "helping others" make better choices. What I do pays very little, so at the end of the day my reward is moral: not financial. The first thing I do when I get to my cell phone when I get off of work is to call my Mom! I just can't wait to tell all the stories of my occupation with someone. Please don't misunderstand! I love my Mom, but I want someone else in my life to share all of the grandeur with... and some kissing and snuggling too!

I must concede that a large age difference could create complications, but let's be real: what relationship doesn't have complications?

SO!!! I shall share one of life's ultimate truths with all of you: If anyone ever told you life is what you "make it", they lied! You have no control over others, their thoughts, actions... Life, my dear friends, is how you "take it". How grand or otherwise insignificant life is to you depends entirely on how you "receive" each opportunity and event! How do you interpret and define life as it is delivered to you? Do you "capitalize" on each and every opportunity? Do you watch opportunity come and go like a feather in the wind? Life moves forward regardless of our response!

I hope you have all heard the expression "taking the bull by the horns". This is pure egotism. One who "takes the bull by the horns" is going to have the crap beaten out of him/her repeatedly with no positive results. Anyone who claims to be that kind of person has truly never met with any real opposition in life. On the other hand: bull-riders have the right idea! Hop on the bull, hang on for dear life, and let the wild winds of fortune land you wherever they may! Be glad you're still alive when all of the dust settles!

My point is this: What I am looking for isn't stamped with an age! My life has absolutely delivered more "hard knocks" than most 40 or 50-year-olds that I know! I am not looking for Mrs. perfect; I am, however, looking for Mrs. perfect for me! If life delivers her in the form of a 20-year-old or a 40-year-old, I will receive her with open arms! I will also ridicule anyone who has a negative opinion about my "happiness" on any level!

My superb congratulations to our senior citizen friend who found happiness with his young hottie, and my richest compliments to all who have commented on this subject! I am glad you are all so passionately opinionated about where to find love and the impact age may or may not have on the equation. I am confident that the amount of thought we have all put into this is evidence of our commitment to our individual quests for happiness! I am all emotional now I wish you all had someone special! And me too!

I look forward to every response and addition to this fantastic debate!

If I had a hot chick who loved me... I would be snuggling with her right now instead of writing this! Think about that!

BRAVO!!! Agree 100%

So boys when you should go next time to meet your GREAT LOVE of the whole life don't forget to read the posts about the fact that the Toilet paper is terrible in Ukraine.
Don't forget to take a good Toilet paper with you when you are going to meet 50 girls in 30 days! (I have read on the other site the plans of one good guy)...certainly when you should have such great conveyor of sexy hotties you will catch the bright soul quickly.
Dear boys, when the man after his trip all over the world (to find his only special) can write only that the Toilet paper in the country was terrible - can you tell me which way he "takes the life"????

Olga, that is hilarious! I too wonder how he "takes it"? HA! I am however glad to know of the poor quality of toilet paper in the Ukraine. If my travels take me there, I shall plan appropriately!

It is sad to know that there are starving children in Africa, but what really gets me angry is the apparent extreme discomfort toilet paper is causing Ukrainians! I shall raise money and send vast supplies of superior American toilet paper to the Ukraine immediately... My heart is with you!

Seriously? Olga, it sounds like the guy you write about is what we here in the U.S. commonly refer to as an "ass hole". It is appropriate then that he references toilet paper quality for obvious reasons! It is also an appropriate subject for this topic of discussion: "ass holes" come in every shape, size, and yes; AGE!

I hope that if a man should find himself surrounded by the superior beauty of Ukrainian women, he would find better things to think about than his anus. I should also hope that the 30-50 Ukrainian women he is meeting are wise enough to receive him for what he is and treat him accordingly.

I hope all of us guys on a quest for our "hottie" are not viewed the same way as that guy. A conveyor of hotties sounds very nice, but only as long as that conveyor delivers that special ONE! I am sorry if I forgot to mention that I am not interested in women who are interested in a guy like the one Olga mentions. What would that make me?

May all of your hopes be set on happiness, and may your final destinations find you there!

"If I had a hot chick who loved me... I would be snuggling with her right now instead of writing this! Think about that!"
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The above quote is from Jason. I couldn't help but respond. My beautiful Lyuda is asleep upstairs right now and I'm enjoying a late night visit to this site. Snuggling is good, but I had work to attend to tonight and was on my computer until 11:00. As part of my "Russian hobby" I am coaching 2 American guys who are corresponding with Russians (one is working out the details to meet Lyuda's best friend from Komsomolsk). We agreed today to take in an Asian exchange student to live here for 3 months. Tonya is excited about that. Tomorrow we'll get Tonya's beginning driver's permit. On Saturday we take 2 Russian students to a skating party with a Halloween theme. One week later is the real Halloween. You can't believe how sexy my wife looks in her Pixie costume with wings. Why am I covering this? For the guys who will read it. The dream that LoversPlanet offers really can come true. It isn't easy...but if you're the right guy, it sure is worth it. If you're not the right guy, try not to pop some nice girl's dream unnecessarily.