To disappear normal?

Sorry but a lot of girls are very very curious about...is it really normal for men to disappear with out any polite "bye"? Boys tell please is it so difficult to write two words ... just like: "don't wait any more dear".
I don't speak even about - "to explaine reasons"...as I understand "to explaine reasons" for men means to do heroic steps.
What is your way to be kind (don't want to upset) or on the contrary you think it is not important at all as this person isn't interesting for you any more?

I think they just lose interest and drift away.

Hello,

It is of course difficult to stop communication with a person if you see that it leads to nowhere (you are different and have no future).
But I think if you lose interest you should be honest, and frankly tell about it.
Maybe just in a few words.
Most of us are very sensitive and getting no answer for some time, start to get worrying.
So despite how difficlult it is, this step, to my mind, is necessary to do.

Eugenia.

Dear boys...answer please "why"??? You have a hope to return?

Even the best of you prefer to drift away with out saying. What is it? - the men's way of thinking? What differs men and women. We are from the different planets?

Well it depends on your meaning of disappear if for just a few days it should not be a problem. As women do this all the time with no word that they are leaving town or anything. Then show back up a week later with no explanation.

I don't think there is a single real answer for you.. everyone's life is different. I can think of many many reasons why this could happen. They are taken away and never look back. This also happens to the men.

It is better not to waste time on someone who disappears. Take it for what it is and move on. It is not nice, but it is reality. Don't waste another thought on someone who is not actively interested and conversing with you. The others are not worth the heartache.

I want to add: I DO NOT think that the reason most men disappear has anything to do with you, the ladies. I think that life is moving VERY quickly for most people here and that other issues come that takes the men away, so they never return and respond

Your right jscottv I was writing to a woman. I am a truck driver and had to go out of town for 2 weeks. It was unusual but a chance to make very good money. I sent her an e-mail saying that I was going out of town that I would be back on the 22nd. But for what ever reason she did not get the e-mail it was returned undelivered. I was gone only 10 days when I returned she was already meeting another man. She had sent 2 e-mails saying how serious she was.

But if she was already planning a meeting not very serious just close the book and throw it on the pile with all the other books

This is why they want to meet after just 2 months they don't want to build a relationship first.

This question is interesting as the ladies do this as well, I think I read once in the ladies forum that the ladies think they should contact every man who has interest and until the ring is on the finger then it is OK to keep searching. For me this is not acceptable if I find the lady I have been talking to has been forming a relationship with someone while professing there desire for me as well then I'm out of there no need to offer an excuse or say good bye. not saying its right or wrong but it is me.

Hello! I think Olga asks about situation when man writes letters several months, talks about he is in love, can't live without woman... but if woman says maybe we are ready to meet each other he dissapears.. maybe this man just needs her emotions and don't interest in real meeting

Any circumstances wich happen in life( I say of searching) can have so many reasons...that you can"sink" try understand "WHY???????? "this happened with me??"...ha ha..but truth is very simple: when you will find YOUR RIGHT man or woman-all in "world "will try help to you to be together in any circumstances!!!!

It is the same reason that a man fly to meet women. And she is not at the airport will not answer cell phone when he tries to call her from the airport. So explain this to me I have known 3 men that this has happened to. This after six months of phone calls and letters.

Then they were stuck in a foreign country by themselves.

I can guarantee you it is not much fun. At least this has not happened to me.

Mike you are correct they are always looking for someone that is better looking with more money and so on. Oh they will write the sweetest letters tell you how badly they want to meet you how they can't wait to meet. What fun things you will do together when you come to meet them. Then throw you under the bus. And then laugh to their friends about it

My opinion is that there are good people, bad people and the rest fit somewhere in the middle.

I sincerely hope that this behavior is not normal, but the cynical side of me believes that it exists in both men and women. I can only tell you that if I was exchanging messages that personal and that emotional, I wouldn't have the energy to write any other woman. I would however, still like to post a comment here when I think I could add value to a conversation.

I can understand the frustrations on both sides.

yes, its true, but I agree with Yevgeniya, when the situation is right.. nothing will keep you apart.

As for me to disappear just without a word after one showed interest (in letters, chatting) to the other person is not normal at all. And this is about men and about women too - both ways.
Again this is how you see it, if you want an adequate positive attitude you will do the same. As i was taught, it is as simple as this: if somebody says "hello" to you, you reply "hi", and if you get a letter there should be a reply (of course you choose what reply you can give). And i think if we all bring this simple thing to a real life, then there will be a positive focus

What a pity only 3 boys at LP site who are clever and brave enough to discuss anything.
Have no interesting thoughts to share with?

Others disappeared??????