Questions to the ladies

It seems to me it isn'r cultural diferenses - we can't understand each other very often. May be we want to change each other - midns and words. But it's impossible. Or we want to be understanding for other on 100% - and it's impossible too


Thanks and really?
I really appreciate.
and did you understand anything from our talking?

I commend the ladies who have the courage to post in the Men's forum. I know this is new and different and I have high hopes for this experiment. Thank you to the Moderator for allowing it to happen!

I would like to nominate:

Natalyya
VeronikaS
Rosa

They are all active members and I enjoy their posts.

Hello men! I was really surprise when I received letter that I can write for you now and I hope that it will be interesting. We can clear up some questions and I think that we can help men to understand us (women) better. thanks moderator that gave us such chance.

Thanks moderator for this new opportunity. I only hope that we will make best of it and help each other!

I have a question for the ladies, i have heard so many say russian men drink to much they don't care for the children ect. I have also read that to have a child under the age of 12 leave Russia they must have fathers approval? and many will not give such.
I find it difficult to believe all these fathers are all drunks who care nothing about support of there children. I met many Russians in Germany and heard many germans complain how lazy they are. But I wish to understand the truth about this as I find these things difficult to believe.

HI Mike!
at first - thanks for questions. you can ask very interesting things about wich we don't think as we live such always.
and you're absolutely right - many men was drinking very often in villages or towns.
In cities people have many ways to rest but it may be with alcohol too.
and you're right again - this father don't give to take out his kids therefore they forgot to keep them - pity.
We have many difficults and we get it.
Maybe so FSU women are so nice and good? lol

Dear Mike, your question is serious but may be the women who are on this site can't be objective and fair. Here are women who are divoice all ready and it means they faild to find a nice man in their own country.
As a ruler our ex don't keep frienship. I can't explaine why the men escape to take care about their children. May be mentalitet may be the low salaries may be they think I have no enough even for myself...certainly not all of them...but what a pity a great quantative...
by the way those russian who are in Germany allready are not lasy ...if they made the efforts to go to Germany to learn the language to change the life - it means they are not lasy at all.

Hello Mike! It's interesting for me why you ask about it? Are you searching wife or you want to know alot about russian men or what are you doing on this site? If you are searching wife you may ask about women ..... am I wrong?

Fair enough but most I had ever talked to have stated these as facts I wish to know if this is true if this offends you in some way i'm sorry but truth and honesty are very important to me.

I think the question is because most men who come here seem to wonder WHY you do not look for a man in your own country. We all have our reason, but drinking is one of the reasons many hear are a problem for the women. So by asking this question, in a way... it IS about the women.

The bottom question actually being: WHY do you seek a foreign man... is drinking by your men one of the reasons?

Good to see you posting again Mike..

I am curious to know what the women think our days are like.

I'll start out:
I think many of the ladies work in an office that they either walked or took a train to work. You live in a larger city than most of us and mostly live in an apartment (or flat) rather than a house. I think many of you prefer to dine at small bistros with maybe a little wine. Of course, family is the most important thing to you and like us, you wait eagerly for the weekend for your leisure activities.

Your homes are exceedingly neat, simply appointed, but you have everything you need and you allow yourself a pet.

And my next question is: When you are treating/pampering yourself, how do you do it?

Dear jscottv, I shall try to answer but this is only my own opinion...I don't know about other girls
first of all I don't think that a woman seek just a foreign man if during the search she will find her special one I think it would be ok for her also
the second...to speak with foreign men is very nice, as a ruler they are polite ( if not - I don't know the language enough well to understand when he is sarcastic - this a joke)
the third...as for me it is rather difficult for me to go to the street and ask every man "are you free? don't you want to be my husband?"...in my 40 I think I shall get an answer "you are very nice but sorry I have a wife already"...so to use the internet-site, where and when everything is rather clear, for me is just suitable way
the fourth...as I am free and in search already why not to get "2 in 1": I shall find a lovely husband (certainly lovely because I am not going to marry every I first speak with) + I shall give my child the opportunity to build her life in the other country...in the future she wouldn't be asked: "why do you want to visit Paris? have you enought money for trip?"...but if she wants she can return any moment...she would be free in her choice

Dear jscottv - never agressive or angry from the women...only curiousity. It is impossible to offend the best boys of the site!!!!

I believe this is the best place to put down this comment, positive aspects of on line dating. I post an opinion and question and without an answer a question is posted instead not truly answering.
I now have seen some comments on why men discuss the negative side of online dating and scammers. Ladies now keep in mind this is only my opinion but I do go and read the ladies forum and although there is a great deal of positive postings there are also the negative as well. Perhaps you are truly not aware that scammers are always lurking and they are very clever. So men do discuss these as well. We are less likely to post how great a singer who died was which in the ladies forum was a heavily posted subject. We tend to focus more on the reality of dating. I think most men here are here to find that one special lady. But to understand character we ask questions that may seem pointed or negative but marriage should never be entered into lightly. So please don’t be offended but take it as a way for the men to understand where your heart is.

My heart will belong my man and it's not important where he lives if I'll be 1 whole with him. I search not nationality, I search true man for whom I'll be as a gift from God and I wish everybody to find second half. Good luck.
P.S. I think that it's difficult ask all women about something, more easy to find one and to develop relations with her and ask her about everything, because ask every woman can be useful only for statistic. I want to live with 1 man and I ask him about everything that I want to know. (Just my opinion)

Answering your question, Mike. I think that it is difficult to form your opinion just on what was said. In fact sometimes stereotypes are used to make a picture of this or that nation. Yes, i can say that there are many men in Russia that use alcohol evry often. But i `ve been to USA, UK, Chezh, and ican say that i saw a lot of drunk people in the streets too. I think that the main thing is: there are normal and bad people everywhere. Maybe, who said you this was right in the fact that most couples separate because of alcohol, and that is why it seems that most men drink.
About russian dads: i have a lot of friends, that have great families and fathers care a lot about kids. Just the fact is that when parents are divorced, our court let mothers care about kids in most of the cases, and some women take it as they should limit communication between fathers and kids. Dads are rare let to take care of the children. And you are right, if a woman wants to go abroad she has to get a permission from the father of the child, even if he doesn`t care about them. This is in our law system.

Well, hope i could help adding my opinion.