A new question

Perhaps it’s a cultural bias or it’s based on practical experience I have read about the drinking habits through these blogs. I have learned that one culture views drinking different than others. There are those who think if you have a glass of wine alone you are an alcoholic. These beliefs are either true or untrue based on each person’s perspective. I’m learning a great deal by reading blogs and asking questions. Now I have a new question;
Has anyone experienced a relationship through this site?
The reason I ask is I have chatted with a couple of women and then bam they disappear without warning, is this normal or cultural or just plain bad luck?
I know everyone is claiming to want marriage and happiness but does it exists through theses sites?
I hope someone can tell me the answer.

Ok from my experience on another site after exchanging many letters, phone calls, an video chat with a certain woman I began to know very well she became impatient, and wanted me to visit her asap! It was impossible as she knew initially I exhausted my vacation time for the remainder of the year, so the bam hit me as well. It was dissapointing but maybe a good sign for me to look at things from another perspective in the future.

i have experienced similar mike, i'm in the process of moving to the main area where i work with my business, and 9 out of 10 people who live there speak something other than English as their first language, typically Russian/Ukrainian... and almost entirely all women...

It certainly is interesting to meet girls face to face and talk to them in a normal every day atmosphere.... I am going to ask a girl who works at a grocery store nearby on a date and see how it goes... will post how it went, if it goes...

Trix, still waiting for that response... how did it go?

ok I have no idea how my previous post got into this thread, sorry guys.

Hey Mike I wanted to open this old thead up and give some input. I have met a woman from this website she is originally from Belarus but was staying in Italy.
She is a very good woman, very educated (speaks 4 languages), beautiful, and mature (even at age 22).

The time I have had on this website I have also had woman speak with me (write me first) showing they are interested. I would converse back and forth
with them a few times then I would never hear from them again.

There is another woman I wrote several times on this website, then one day she disapeared and a year later found me on Facebook and adding me to her profile and has started
talking to me again (I just talk as friend not interested). She told me sorry for disapearing but I was busy with University and had no time to chat.

But since I have known the woman from Belarus she has told me that she never thought I would really come to visit her. She said that she really wanted to see me
but she never thought that I would actually spend the time and travel to see her. So she was completly shocked when I actually bought a plane ticket and traveled to be with her.

I think alot of these woman start profiles and are hoping to meet someone but eventually start to believe that it will never happen. It just so happens that this woman from Belarus's sister
lives 3 hours drive from me. I have since became great friends with her and her husband and have lunch with them every so often. The sister has told me that woman from
eastern Europe are easily discouraged because many men will write to them with promises of love and a better future but then never take it further then
that (going to see them). There are alot of men on this website and there are probably alot of men who make the same promises with no intention of delivering.
Having a long distance relationship takes alot of effort and alot of money (travel expenses).

I dont know exactly but I would say maybe timing has alot to do with why the woman loses interest.
These woman will only buy words for so long, then they want action. Maybe some men are taking to long to go meet these woman? Just a thought but who truely knows???

I also had few "Bams" so sudden that I was trying to guess what had happened.
One of them it was from Belarus, and it was going quite well, in fact I was even thinking to visit her.
My view is that these women main reason is to find somebody and quickly move to another country with different life style, however personal relationship is something complicated and it takes time to someone initially acquire some trust and this without placing emotional feelings on this matter,and it is possible they move on whenever they feel that the "relation" is not moving as they have expected.

hi i thought that id leave my opinion on the last post and others relating to the same subject. If 2 people havent met how can they know that what people say is true?, many men on this site arnt serious and waist womens time. Russian women are very loyal and when after 6 months their man dissapears into thin air its a good reason to ask for a little commitment after talking for so long about being together, you have thoughts of being with her or you wouldnt have started a relationship with her. We men joined this site knowing of the expense of travel and time. If some want a long distance penpal this is wrong place to find it, and very upsetting for the woman that placed all her trust in the man that used her until he gets bored. Its not alot to ask for if she wants to meet you. Im also not nieve i know there are problems for men too. Women have to make a decision and its weither we are waisting their time or not.

Which goes to prove, "Love is not for the faint of heart!".

Hey guys wake up!thats internet dating for you,selecting the right person.If you speak to a lady a few times and then she disappears it is way of saying you are not what she is looking for and guys how many times have you gone cold on someone too?Its pretty straightforward if you like each other you will continue writing and you know then you have found someone,its part of the selection process.Dont get disheartened, interenet dating is very competative,just keep trying you will find someone eventually!!!!!

Relationship with russian speaking woman ,
here's some postivies and negatives for you and some background so here goes.
I met a young lady online about July time and subsequently visited in september ,i have returned since in november and spent time at her home ,in her city & even visited her parents to try and help understand there values ,culture and way of life and make some comparisons to modern life in the western world.
So here's a summary if you want to know whether it is possible and what the women are looking for....1st hand.
First of all why so many are looking on the internet and seem so attractive-russian women are brought up to look like this all the time its there way of life ,what we may be used to seeing on an evening is normal everyday wear in there country and the women are as beautiful if not more in person. Reason for the internet is very very simple ,there are 10,000 million more women than men across russian speaking nations the ukraine and russia have the most variance and to support this i will explain a little 1st hand experience in a night club...the men pay double as entrance fee women some times go free ,there main goal is to find a man....not for one night but as a relationship & this is there main source of social interaction with available men and there was at least 10 men for every woman. Once the time hit about 1am all the unsuccesful women went home,and the club became very nearly deserted. Now this culture and way of life has created many problems ,men are quite lazy and women will move on quickly if they do not think you are serious...hence the need to visit and why you experience "BAM".

There is some insight ,now the realities .
Language is a huge issue...my advice try and find a lady who speaks fair to good english unless you are very patient....you can have simple misunderstandings on very simple things sometimes and mainly due to grammer issues not the words....more the sentence you use them in.
The women are very very perceptive remember that 70% of russian women have university educations ,they are very smart and they do like to talk about many different things ,economics ,politics ,culture ,nature. For them chemistry is not just physical attraction its about stimulating there minds too...make an effort to learn a little russian ,understand there nature.
Remember something very important...not all russian women are the same....my advice here is look at where they live and come from. Remember Moscow is the most expensive city in the world to live so think of what way of life those women see everyday. Find out about her background ,this idea that ALL russian women are interested in is money or wealth is a little exaggerated. What they seek is very honest ,faithful men who want a family and hold traditional values like loyalty very highly.
My advise to all the guys on here is make plans to visit in the next 4 months and during that time make contacts with women and tell them you intend to visit . I would also suggest apartments over hotels too you get more for your money and its not that expensive to eat out (except moscow although i have only been told this).
If you really are serious about and eastern woman you will not find it on the internet...YOU WILL HAVE TO GO THERE....what i will guarantee is this when you do find one and you have that connection she will do everything she must to be with you.
Were now waiting for a uk visa so she can come to the uk next

Hope this helps eveyone

I've been to Moscow and St Pete both on seperate trips, believe me both cities are a "MUST SEE" and the Lavish Hotels are second to none, although very expensive so it's not for everyone, I didn't research any priceing on apartments so I can't offer any info there. As Thumper said the women to man ratio can be overwhelming, I'm sure it's at least 10-1 if not more, and I also agree these women are very well educated and most speak more than there native language, I had no problem touring the cities and asking for points of interest in English. To be honest the people understood me very well, also there are many students who will work as translator for a small fee if you feel it's necessary. I'm looking forward to visiting again in the spring.......

Good Luck to all......

This argument about the Russian women's predominance isn't correct. It's correct to say that women live much longer there, up to 15 years more. The question is, "Would you chase a 70-year widow?"

In fact, there are more young males than females.
Sex ratio
at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female
under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female
15–64 years: 0.92 male(s)/female

When I watch an American movie from the 60s, I admire men in elegant suits and women in nice dresses in their everyday lives. Somewhere it's still true.

Barabaika,
do not leave from this site (forum) please
Sometimes it seems that we not only speak different languages with men, but also live on different planet.
We thank you for informative posts