Qustion, would you continue to Correspond with others here?

To tell that I am in shock - means to tell nothing!!!

Certainly such situation means to be "a great love" - to be a little bit upset because the lady knows that although she was probably the nicest you are going to meet others and may be even to be in bed with them.
I don't know about others who don't want to get off the boat...as for me I should never speak with such man any more. I can't even imagin he can come and say: "I tried every one in your town. Now I know surely you are the nicest". Do you understand where I am going to send such guy???? I can understand the wish to have plan B if something is wrong from the very begining but to be so cynical with feelings...

I really can't understand...if these women are ready to be in one boat all together may be they are not really interested about you but only about boat which you can suggest. What shall she think all life long? : if he can deal such way why can't she do the same... When somebody will come with a little bit better boat?

There are many stages to a relationship: Introduction...commitment...marriage. I left many out. Until you reach the point of commitment to one person, you are free to meet and date other people. I understand why you ladies want the commitment stage to come earlier, but it is the man's option to proceed slowly and keep the foot off the accellerator. Why do you want to deprive me of my rights? Why do some of the ladies post glamour pictures that look nothing like the real person they are? Many do. Many of the ladies haven't even bothered to get their legal divorce papers yet. Men spend thoiusands of dollars to travel and meet a lady and find this out.

Certainly you are right...why not...I only hope I shall not contact with the man who has the same kind of thinking at least I hope I shall not have such visitor who had tried already the whole town!!!

About what introduction do you speak if you have written the girl, called her, spoke in skype several months already - what else introduction do you wait if you have discussed everything during this time - all friends, relatives, hobbys, likes and dislikes. From the meeting she/he waits already only to prove that all what is told before is truth....that the reality is one and the same with the hopes. If you both see that you are the same as you have discribed you are ready for the next step....and this step is not introduction because you know already a lot about each other, you know the way of thinking, you understand the same jokes. The only thing which you have now to find out - may be you snore so loudly that it is impossible to be near and some other negatives what you both did not want to write but to tell eyes by eyes is better.

about glamour pictures: Certainly all ladies will put just tomorrow the pictures "they are with hair rollers and dirty legs"...all boys will enjoy ...hmmm.. and may be fall in mad love I think. Everyone dreams to have such lady near

rogerm222, sorry I ask...just curiosity...shall you start the deep relationship with the girl after you hear from her: "yes you are the nicest because I have a great experience to compair, during this month I am going to meet 2-3 men also, may be some of them will try to rush me at the bed. I e-mailed them...if they are not so good I shall match with you".
Certainly you are right you both are free to meet and date other people.

Well done Olga!!!!!!! Agree with you completely. I'd also didn't want to have something with such kind of man. I want be sure that my man will visit only me and our meeting will only prove our relations. If you still have doubts about one lady what for you will visit her?

>rogerm222, sorry I ask...just curiosity...shall you start the deep relationship with the girl after you hear from her: "..during this month I am going to meet 2-3 >men also..."
Hi Olga. Questions are fine. On my next trip I told the ladies up front how many ladies I would be meeting. And I also assumed they are emailing other men also. I told them I do not have a problem with that. Some men just don't like penpal relationships, that is a personal choice. I did not say I had sex with the lady, I am not one to kiss and tell. It was my first trip to a foreign country. Yes, I made a few rookie mistakes. My original plan was to meet four ladies. She was planning for me a tour of the city on Thursday, dinner with her sister on Friday, a picnic in the park on Saturday, ... At same time I was planning to meet the brunette from Lviv on Thurday, the blonde university professor on Friday, and the ballet dancer from Sumy on Saturday. A bit of a scheduling problem... It was a difficult decision for me to make, whether to spend the 10 days just with her, ... or continue with plans to meet the other ladies also. I did not know yet if she was really serious about me - maybe she just wanted someone to have a good time with for a week, and then forget about me after I leave. There were some other issues I won't mention. It takes time to get to know a person. Yes, I sometimes wonder what might have been if I had only seen her for the whole 10 days...yes, I still think about hugging her in the street underpass below Khreschatyk Street during the rain storm, and all the fun times we had. But the best advice someone gave me was to take your time, and not make a hasty wrong decision.

Being a typical very busy professional, my free time became one of the luxuries I do not have readily available any more, subsequently, I am only corresponding with one women at the time, if any. This free time constraint, I've been experiencing for the last 9 months, is one of the main reasons why I am looking to find my matching woman via this dating site.
Once I have more free time, I'll probably initiate simultaneous contacts with 2 to 4 ladies.If I ever become positively assured about one of the woman's identity, and that we have much in common and many other likes, I will probably continue corresponding with my other prospective ladies until I visit my Number One. This is providing my number one will capture my heart and also open her hart to me....am I fantasizing or what!

It is reasonable to expect that most of the ladies from this site, and from any other similar sites for the same matter, are corresponding with more men. In my letters to each of the women, I was in contact with so far, I've specifically indicated about being well aware of their respective correspondences with multiple men. This is ongoing reality which is understandable, and acceptable to me without any attachments, for I sincerely wish them all to find for themselves those men whom they deserve the most.

So far I did not have any substantially positive experiences in corresponding with my prospective ladies.
Three of those, I've sent letters to, have never answered which led me to conclude, they are here:
as dating ghosts, maybe just for fun or so, or they are specifically looking for someone who is extremely good looking and/or sounding rich. Maybe they already have their respective B/Fs locally, but they are also exploring potential men's market, just in case....talking about the "thoughtful" women, a modern business type loving ladies with well drawn contingency plans!!
One of the others had insisted, via her third letter, to come in visit here as soon as possible. The 5th one was sending me letters which were kind of fabricated for purpose of multi correspondences. Of 12 questions, I've asked her, she had answered only on 2, even though I've repeated some of those questions up to 3x.

"Well done Olga!!!!!!! Agree with you completely. I'd also didn't want to have something with such kind of man. I want be sure that my man will visit only me and our meeting will only prove our relations. If you still have doubts about one lady what for you will visit her?"

The purpose of visiting our prospective ladies would be to get to know them much better in the real lives. Such visits could easily be of essential importance for the decision making about the men's serious love with one of them, even if we had already exchanged numerous letters between us. So, dear Olga and Alena, I could not become a 100% sure, during my visitation of only one women, that such particular woman will be the one with who I will fall in love, and that she, too, will only want me. Furthermore, very few of us would decide to visit only one of their prospective women during each intercontinental trips . b/c of the spent time and money considerations.
Wee all are looking for our respective life partners to be the most suitable and deserving to ourselves. We can't afford, in this modern and difficult world of ours, to dedicate our hearts to those of our prospective partners for whose personalities we have learned only during our correspondences or eventual phone and video chats.

Dear boys, I have told you already that сertainly you are right. IMHO - It is normal you correspond with several women moreso I think it is normal even to have a reserve plan B about other meeting... BUT....BUT I don't think that (not I am sure that) if during the meeting you are goin to tell or to make your girl knows that you shall meet an other one (two, three, four) she will not trust you any more, it would be a step aside at the relationships. Something fairy between you would be destroyed, from this moment it would be only calculation not feelings any more.
It will not upset her a bit - it would be a great hurt for her (although may be she wouldn't even show you that it worries her).
If you made a decision to come and she was the first at your list - it can mean that she is special for you not the blond from Lviv or the brunet from university or the balet-dancer from Sumy..something touched your heart - you enjoyed she was near...you remember these moments with warmth...why to crush?

I can understand Spectre who came and met a drunk lady...WOW he needed a reserve plan...

I would not continue to Correspond with others here. If things have advanced to the point of traveling to see her common decentcy requires us to put all other correspondence on hold. If she is suppose to be special why make her feel like a number? I know i wouldn't want to spend the time and money to go see her get there on a friday just to be told i cant see you sunday i have to meet some one else. So what if things dont work out? Start a new correspondence with some one else. Just my opinion. And sorry for any mistakes i am useing a cell phone.