Happiness takes work and some effort are you ready?

Finding someone is not as hard of making it work, I believe after reading both the womens and the mens forum that some have entered this idea of finding the ideal lady moving back to a western country and living happy ever after as a simple process. Of course we expect difficulties with visa's and proper documentation, but what of the life issues? Remeber this lady is moving not only out of her home but out of her world. Family, friends not to mention the cultural shock can lead to a very stressful start. Lets say you get through all the legal work and she is on the plane and on here way to her new life. If she has a child than the difficulties with languge and schools and a general feeling of security with the child is going to be tough, but remeber you are now most likly thier sole support system . Saying it will all work out is not enough, they are now feeling a bit overwhelmed the way of life is vastly different than one has imagined, if you are rich you have a few extra options but still are faced with some real challenges. She needs to find her place make your home now hers as well. your family and friends will now play a big part. If you have children they will also have some adjustment issues . Do you have an ex-wife again perhaps extra drama not planned for. All these and the added exspense the hurt feelings the shock will make it a tough go . However I'm an romanic, I believe all these can be overcome but don't fool yourself this will take effort and time, so reach for the stars but keep your feet on the ground .

I agree with you in the things you mention.

It may be very hard to move to another country and culture.

If you are planning that your partner is going to live with you in your country, you SHOULD try to make a lot of preparation.

Get in contact with people from your partner's home country who are already living in your country.

Look for clubs for let's say Russian-American clubs.

See if you can get in contact with local people from her church. Catholic churches are very important places for meeting new people with your own background (this is true for both wife and husband).

A good preparation before actually going to the new country can help your partner - and yourself a lot!

Just a couple of useful people from your wife's home country can help you to success with your marriage! They can tell her about her new country and life here..

Well, we all have to remember that: "Love is an emotion, BUT marriage is a DECISION!"

If the couple is not totally committed to making the marriage survive, it won't. So I guess anyone entering into marriage, must be sure they are willing to commit to a married life and to dedicate themselves to making it a success.

Marrying the girl next door or the girl from a foreign land all takes commitment, compromise and hard work. I hope everyone involved goes about marriage with their eyes open... the bottom line for me is, happiness is deeply rooted in attitude. Be sure that both partners fully understand the depth of their commitment. They should share the same expectations in their marriage, AND... Both partners should be willing to work together and have a happy and successful attitude about their life and family, agreeing on the common goal that they wish to live in a long, loving and secure marriage.

If you have this as a basis of relationship, I think the marriage will be successful.

I truly believe it can and has worked; I also believe love can overcome all obstacles however love without understanding without the necessary effort will be love lost. I truly wish to find someone who understand that there will be some rough times at first just to adjust but together we can endure and make it last forever.