Scammers vs. "Professional Daters"

Recognizing scammers becomes somewhat easy with practice but...
It's much more difficult to spot a "professional dater."

What is a PD? It's a girl who has been on the dating/marriage sites for many years. She's real. She exists. However she is not interesting in marriage. Often she has a (Russian) boyfriend at home. But for reasons, often that she simply likes to be taken to nice restaurants, have nice trips paid for, etc., she continues to "meet" foreign guys who will provide this social "upgrade" for her.

Now, these "professional daters" are a nice diversion but if you are serious about finding Ms. Right, she can also break your heart. I guess the only way to recognize her is by her "materialism." She'll find ways to meet you in Egypt or some "Schengen" country for a vacation. She'll be gracious when you buy her a nice gift or take her to a "better" restaurant.

If a SERIOUS girl likes you, she'll take you to meet her family! Remember that.

Ouch.

I would really like to hear a woman respond to this. I haven't been on this site for long and I am not rich anyway, so I'm not going to fly off to meet anybody anytime soon.

I understand that nothing in this world comes without risk. No relationship is guaranteed.

I just know that there's nothing wrong with speaking up and defending yourself, either.

So, ladies, please let us know your opinion.

-Stan

yep , stan ...

this would be interesting to have "someone from the other side" answering such a post ...

as you wrote , NOTHING just ABSOLUTELY nothing comes with a 100% guaranty in human-relationship ...

as for not being rich , i wouldn't see that as a problem !

can you afford to have a normal life ? a life where "end of month" (lack of bucks) doesn't start right after the 10th of each month ?

if you do , you can have it !

you see , i am amazed by the way most seems to present themselves : if i would tell you that i have many houses , plenty sport-cars , few boats and a jet-plane but only as a toy ...
would consider as normal that i could complain "after" that you know all those details ? or being my friends for such things ???

richness as about nothing to do in the matter !

how about impressing women for your nice personality (i am not saying you don't have one !) your charisma , your care about her ???

i agree that we are living in 2 completely different styles of society , but in mine such details as money , social status , etc ... are only accessories !

they can make life a bit more spicy , but are not the crucial point of decision !

PS: the biggest Gold-Digger i have met , took me to meet her parents !! it took me some times , but it was their attitude toward me that enable me to understand ...
they were "pushing" her much more than she was incline to be ...

so i decided to drop her : this is a crucial point = if you want to tag everybody for a certain price , don't complain after that they let you down for the price they thought you were ...!

speaking of professional daters, what about the Top 100? There are many who have been on this site for a couple years or more, now doesn't that raise an eyebrow? and we can't rule out there only pawns to keep us here. I find it hard to believe women of such beauty have been here this long, is there prize money involved to be the top girl on all these sites? I have seen a few of them on other sites as well.

yes , duke ...
it can be quite strange to see some "drop-dead gorgeous" to be "on offer" for a long time ...

but you have to analyze a bit the situation from the 2 sides ...

i know a f** censored** woman from Minsk , she has all what a man can want , she has a good job (she is earning quite well for her country) she has a car , she has her own flat ...

she has been looking for someone "special" for ages , i think she has dropped her dream by now ...
WHY ?
A: she is extremely exigent on the kind of guys she meet : most of them tries the "I'm rich, baby" approach , they are shot-down within minutes , if not seconds ...

i suppose (personal opinion) that she came into this has a dream , probably doing exactly the same mistake most make : seeing the "mental representation" of her dream , not the real person in it ... (like : "all Eastern girls are gorgeous , extremely good looking , kind , etc" = have you ever been in Moscow Underground and see the "dragoon" watching mechanical stairs ? all pretty ??? or in you country , off-course everybody has a ocean-front mansion ... including the ones living in Arizona ! you know where is the flake ,i do as well : how about any woman in Belarus or even worse : Moldova ? )

the problem ? :

good old money ! if you were making money on website , would you erase a profile as soon as notified ? or try to make it last an other week ??

you see LOTS of websites seems to have lots of young girls on display , those young girls are probably grand-mother by now , still it is what attract our eyes !!!

for "Professional Daters" :

it seems that the river is , hopefully, going to go dry !!!

there seems to be a new fashion in Eastern-Europe : Webcam-Chat ...

lots of "drop dead looking" talking with men from around the globe ...
they seems to be paid quite well for chatting men , some of them make fortune by showing around their anatomy ...

some do not show anything , they just talk ! what a wonderful world we are living in , some peoples actually pay to talk with someone else ??? with the help of PC ... do they understand the meaning of "get out of your shack and talk to real peoples around ! " ?

so , hopefully (bis) , most "Professionals" will understand soon that luring a lot of dummies thru Web-Chat can pay more than hooking a pray one by one ... especially if it is less hassles !!
(no fake identities needed , no lies to remember , no big-excuses to present , no risks with law enforcement ...)

if in some times , the "cutties" seems to be less and less , it might be one of the reason ....

Hi, my wife stay online more than 5 years and believe me she can say same words about men on internet dating site. we live together over 3 years and every time I feel how lucky I am

Guys....I have had experience with both the professional dater and sincere woman. As others have said here, the professional is only looking for the gifts, vacations and fun. I spent two weeks with a very beautiful Russian woman in Thaliand and had the time of my life, which I do not regret, and will never forget. Though when I asked if I could visit her home in Vladivostok she backed away. I met another woman whom I still see, and she was very happy that I wanted to visit her home, family and friends. This type is for real. I guess it depends what you are looking for. Good luck guys! JC