Tips for new guys - Crafting a profile

Let me start by saying there is no 'perfect' profile. Some profiles will work better than others but they are highly personal statements. They express who you are and they must appeal to who she is. Since you don't know her yet, it is impossible to address what she wants to know. Use the messages for this. So your only goal is to not make a mistake that will make her pass you by.

The Preferences

This is a minefield for both sides. When you put in an age range, weight, hair color you are eliminating viable candidates. So if it REALLY matters put it down. If not leave it blank. My biggest caution, I would NEVER fill in salary unless I was looking for someone too young for me and I wanted to buy her love. That objective is so foreign to my way of thinking that I will comment no further. They need to know for the K1, not before. I never say more than the following and probably not before the third long message:

I am financially prepared for a Russian wife. I have a good career and a modest home. Money will not be a problem for us.

Pictures

Match.com has a lot of research on this subject. Good pictures get many times more responses than poor pictures. I would follow this formula.

Go to a professional photographer that specializes in pictures for profiles. Match pointed me to one. Wedding photographers are the best at this type of work. Do not use a chain store studio, they are a waste of money and the pictures are substandard.

Your pictures should reflect who you are. I am a suburban male, white collar professional. So I bought a new shirt and dressed up in business casual clothes. This is what I felt most comfortable in every day. The photographer and I met at an outdoor location (better light)and he shot 50 pictures of me. I liked about 10 of those. I got digital copies of the 10 in cephia, black and white, and color. You need at least one closeup with you smiling. A smile is comforting and inviting. You appear more easily approachable to a woman, you are trying to make her feel comfortable and a big smile is a good sign for her. This shot is your primary profile picture. You have one chance to get her to look deeper into the profile. This picture is your most important assett.

Then I would get a really good photo of you doing something you like to do. A good action shot works. Golf, horseback riding, reeling in a fish, close up, waste and above. A shot with a recognisable landmark works well if you travel. It should reflect a strong interest you have and provide her a subject she can talk with you about. You should be alone in the picture with no drink in your hand (saw this tip in the ladies forum ). In a country plagued with alcoholisim this doesn't endear you to them. Ladies, same goes for you!

Then a full body shot. I never did these, I never thought they looked right. But this is my lady's contribution to this post. She kept asking gently until I finally stood up on Skype and let her see me. It was important to her in a way I didn't understand. Perhaps a lady will respond and explain.

The Ins and Outs of the Introduction

Now you have to introduce yourself. The temptation is to write exactly what you want in a woman. Save it for the followup messages. One small phrase with little importance to you could get you rejected. You are just trying to get her attention. So ask yourself. If I met this woman in public, and I was at my most charming, what would you want her to know?

I have no way of knowing what you will write. But here is an example (Don't plagarize, the women read this forum ):

Writing a profile is the most difficult tasks for all of us. We must be honest and humble, strong and kind. We are told we should be charming and funny. After listening to all that has been said, I have taken a different route. I will tell you two things I believe. The first is; there is a woman who is my perfect mate! The second is that all things worth having are gained through great effort. Neither of us can be sure of the first without the second. If you are ready for the effort that ends in love, write.

This one reflects who I am. Yours should reflect you. If you are funny let it show. If you are charming thoughtful, caring, whatever. It should highlight the core of who you are. Keep it short and realize you are conveying a feeling, an impression. And always challenge her to respond if she agrees.

It should not include: A list of requirements, profanity, your flaws, desperation, where you live, what you do. Some of that she will need but save it for a message. Not convinced?

Think about it, would Nike write the following add?

Shoe, expensive, high profit margin because we make it in Malasia. It will work adequtly for running as long as you don't run too often. Comes in blue, black, white...etc.

They chose: 'Just do it.'

Online dating profiles are probably my weakest area. Perhaps one of the ladies will start a thread over in the womens forum and ask what they like to see in a profile. It would help bring people together.

Sorry for the spelling, for some reason it won't let me edit to fix my mistakes.

Trap? Who said anything about a trap? I say over and over, be honest. Let it reflect you you are (be yourself). Don't eliminate yourself by telling a woman you want red hair when you don't care. I wonder if you even read what I wrote. What is your strategy? Post no pictures, fill out no information, tell them write me because I said so? I suppose that is the profile you would respond to. No pictures, no lady in nice cloths? No bikini shots?

In order to get to the point you discover who they are they have to respond. Like a resume, a profile is an introduction. I assume you take great care with your resume why not a profile?

Nothing new in what I wrote, adapted from Match.com, some from the women's forum. Believe or don't believe, I could not care less.

No substantive response, just name calling, typical. Yes, I am an idiot. And match.com's experts are idiots, and eharmony is full of idiots, and you know better. You will make some woman a wonderful husband Kyle, unless they read the forum.

Couldn't even find your profile, too much trouble?