I have met a Russian lass and she seems genuine but?

Hello I have met a Russian lass she is 10 years younger but she says that doesn't matter. now because she is beatiful too i can't stop thinking the worse. but its been 9 days now of emailing eachother and senting pictures.. asking Questions but shes not asked me for money or mentioned anything of the sorts. Her name is elena but she has not mentioned her second name yet ever. could this really be the real thing? she found me on a British site not here? Any advice guys/girls?

Don't know what to tell you. You never can tell what people are thinking or what they are going to do. Everyone is different. She could just be taking her time, being cautious, not telling you her last name because she doesn't want a stalker lol. Best way to look at it is to just be cautious yourself go into it slow and only time will tell. Best advice I can give you is to listen to your 6th sense. If you feel something is wrong then most likely it is. Play smart and hopefully you will find the love of your life. Best of luck to you.

The fact that this "lady" found you on a British site and not through LoversPlanet is a red flag. She could be legit, but based on what you wrote I urge you to be careful. I was on the US Match.com site 4 years ago. A Russian hit on me and started a hot and heavy correspondence with photos every week. I eventually sent $2,400 before I decided it was a guy. "She" didn't ask for money right away, but eventually said she could get a visa and a ticket to the US. I'd been to Russia and liked the idea of having "her" come here (at a budget price).
It was a worthwhile lesson. "She" stirred my interest in Russian women. The first site I joined was LoversPlanet and the first woman I wrote to is now my wonderful, beautiful, perfect wife. I also have a wonderful teenage daughter. The father-daughter relationship we have developed is really a good one. I've talked to one other guy who was being scammed. He was so in love he didn't want to believe it...and I don't know the final outcome. It is easy for a scammer to come up with beautiful photos. I think my scammer was sending photos of his sister. I think that because "her" brother was in one of the photos. I think that was his little joke. Had I not been scammed, I probably would not have found LoversPlanet and my wife. Obviously I'm glad it happened. I have no hard feelings toward the guy.

THANKS GUYS taken it all on board..wait and see now I'll keep u up2 date with developings

if I were you I would, at this point, never mention anything about money. If it is a scam pay close attention to the way she asks. I would personally never send any money to someone I had not met in person. That means if the relationship developes make plans to go see her. You could ask her to meet you in Kiev(easier travel than to russia). You may offer to BUY THE TICKET,not send her the money to buy it(and send her enough money for meals while travelling) but no more than that.(pay close attention to how she responds when you tell her that) Scammers use all types of situations to try and milk money out of you. Just pay attention to the way she responds when the issue does eventually come up. If she all of a sudden has a sick relative that needs financial help your radar should be on high alert for a scam. For anyone reading this, do not send money to a lady you have not met, for any reason. Insist on meeting her if the relationship developes further. She may not want to tell you her last name because really she does not know you well enough yet. Good luck, Joel

Dear Britishman1,
10 years difference is ok here, especially in certain age.
The rest of your message says that you can't believe to your luck and happiness. Nothing from the said above really proves that this girl is a scammer.
If you do not wait anything good out of this type of dating then what good things may happen to you ?
AND 9 days is only 9 days. Just take your time to know the girl and see what is behind her beautiful appearance, there is no pressure to make any decisions after 9 days only
I wish you luck with her or someone else ))

There are at least two ways to look at those things. I always volunteered to pay the lady's travel expenses. I sent money in advance to about 12 ladies, anywhere from $50 to $300 for travel to meet me in Kiev or Moscow. Every one of them showed up. But if they hadn't, I always figured I would be better off without them...

If you travel from US to Ukraine/Russia for 2 weeks, it may cost $3000 to $5000 total expenses. That is about $200 to $350 per day. if a lady just wants your money it may be better for her just to take your $100 you send her for travel expenses and not show up, than to have her waste a day or more of your valuable vacation time trying to get money and gifts from you.

BMAN1, if your lady posted lingerie and sexy bikini photos, then yes, you may have some reasons to worry.
But otherwise, most likely you will be able to get a good signal from her emails as to how sincere she is.
If you aren't willing to take some amount of risk, maybe you should just date ladies in your city.

Hi joe. Rodger and others
I think you might be right mate. I think elena is for real. she has now sent me 9 emails not mentioned money. Her emails seem genuine. Her photos are always fully clothed. and the last one was her holding up a sigh with my name on showing me its really her. She talks about her life and askes about mine. she knows i'm not a rich man and that is not what she wants she says. shy wants only happiness and a future away from Russia.. Starting to wish i was a rich man to give her the future she dreams about now. But we;ll have to wait and see. thanks for your post
Quinn

Be SURE.. you speak with her on SKYPE, ICQ or Yahoo chat with video. If she says she does not have a camera.. send her one. You can get a reasonable one for not much money. Change your emails to personal conversations and have her tell you this information "face to face". If she says she does not have access to an internet connection, be suspicious.

If she is real, she will have no problems finding a way to speak with you via online video. I would NEVER continue a conversation with anyone that can not / will not have personal video contact with you. Some of the girls may object to this.. but if she is smart enough to find a British site to meet you on, then she is smart enough to find a way to have a video chat.

Good luck with your search!

I think a few days or months even is not enogh time to get to know someone well. Of cource everyone is different. But one thing is for sure time will tell. Yes speaking on a webb cam even if it is only for a short time can give the trust thing a big boost, that you see the person you speak with. And a quick phone call is a good idea even if their English is little, at least you can hear them. but of cource meeting them is the important step.
Unfortunaley there are time wasters and scammers, both men and women, who spoil it for the majority. they just need weeding out.

Hello there,
I agree with Tinna. But be carefull, when a woman says that she didn't find you on here, well, you should ask her where she found you exactly. I might send you a large number of e.mails I received, coming from beautiful women that say to have seen your profile somewhere else. Moreover, have a look at her email provider, if it's "yahoo" or "gmail", well, it might be another alarm bell, usually russian women use their local ones (I deeply studied the case....). But of course I don't want to discourage you, just I'm saying "Be carefull", you have all the time to look into this affair and, above all, don't fall in love at the first sight...
I wish all the best
Felice

Hello Felice
Don't want to object you but useing yahoo or gmail can't be "red flag"
1) if the girl speak with a man by Messenger she will have e-mail yahoo...by the way the web at Messenger gives better picture than Skype
2) in our days - everyone has several e-mails at different pages
If you want I can ask girls at the women's side of the forum if they have yahoo or gmail but I am sure every one of them has because they mentioned about many times


hmmm.... as for me I use rambler and Skype for work but yahoo and Messenger for private speaking and letters (friends and relatives) - here I have password not to show co-workers my private life

Actually I had a friend who had a Russian e mail account and for some reason the e mails did not come throgh. They where blocked. So i think having a Yahoo or similar e mail acoount is not a problem. A dishonest person can use any e mail account.
But i read that you can do an ID check on someone, if you really wanted to find out about their history or if the are not real. has anyone done this ?

I am an IT guy, and I don't want to unnecessarily alarm you but I get messages all the time from 'fake' Russian ladies. I have a website where I have published an email contact address and it draws a few a month. They try to send virus infected pictures. So get a spyware and virus scanner and check out your PC.

What would be the harm in asking her it sign up here? It is free for the ladies and there is a phone call made to assure she is real. The womens forum is great, if you two get serious she can get a lot of help there.

When you mentioned this it struck me how a good woman can inspire a man to be better than he is alone. I feel the same way about my Russian lady. Since she entered my life I have had more energy and drive than I have had in my life. We haven't spoken about it but I am actually considering law school. I want to be the man she deserves. Glad I am not the only one.

Good for you Quinn.