Men? Why are you on this site?

hmmm by the way the idea "i want this woman" doesn't mean only sex I think for man it can mean the complex:
1) it is hight time for me to have a good family (all around have only I am alone)
2) I am tired from the sex for 1-2 night
3) this woman is so sexy for me
4) my life would be more comfortable with this woman
5) we can understand each other so well
6) I want to make somebody happy because other way I should waist my life for bear - it would be useless at the end

May be I am wrong??? What makes you to be in search?

I have a feeling that here speaks a man who wants love and everything what real love gives for 200%. He is of the opinion that origin of a woman can be a guarantee of getting this 200% together with a woman - 1 "package" of love and 200% heart break protection

Interesting post.
Well....you wanted to hear from other men, so.....here's my input.
I wasn't afraid to travel to the Ukraine (Odessa) to meet a woman.
I DID...and it resulted in a wonderful marriage that lasted for almost 8 years until I lost her to cancer.
However..
what DOES surprise me is the thought that IF you've found a "happy" relationship with a woman from Russia or the Ukraine or wherever.....

WHAT are you STILL doing "checking in" on this site.
Sorry....
just seems a bit "unusual" to me.
Although my wife was not a "jealous" person.....I DO know that she would have found that sort of behaviour rather peculiar....as just "checking in" seems rather odd.
Don't you think so?

Gary

Hello, all members of a site! Some time back I was on sites
where too there are both female, and man's forums. I somehow
wrote a little there. But today I have decided to write once
again. Well that there is such theme. I consider that many
men are wrong, thinking that women from Russia and Ukraine
can deceive only and have only the purpose to leave for other
country or to receive from the man of their money. It is
absolutely incorrect so to think! Such times already for a
long time have ended, when women were ready because of bad
material situation to marry for any foreign the man. But now
the Internet so has expanded borders of dialogue, that people
wish to find the person related on interests, outlooks on
life. But do not forget, that the deceit can go from both
sides. I can tell about the experience. For example, I
communicated with the man, but for some reasons our relations
have ended. I do not need in his Santa Barbara and the rich
house if the person does not respect with me, my interests,
and communicates with many women. It is humiliating for the
woman whom you wish to have the wife! Or in other case, the
man was not serious with his finance though in this case the
man has obligations for that his bride has received the visa.
But we have left in a friendly way, without insults against
each other. It is important, that in search both sides have
been fair and opened each other . But on this site many men
simply do not answer letters. Probably it because of
unrealistic expectations? Why men search for women for 15-20
years is more younger than them? Be not surprised in that
case that can deceive you. I still wish to pay attention of
men, what even having a computer, it is possible to have bad
opportunities to communicate in Yahoo or Skype using webcam
. For example, I live in suburb where the hight-speed
Internet while is inaccessible. Therefore do not hurry up to
accuse the woman of a deceit. I have many friends in the USA
who is happy married and we very often correspond in Skype
that is accessible to me. I have decided to write here that
the man's half of forum knew, that here it is a lot of women
fairly looking the destiny. And besides ,my Congratulations
on the birthday of your nation, the United States of America!
I hope and trust that the humanistic ideals that were the
seed of America's birth, continue to take root and flourish
within the hearts of all Americans.

I think we can distill this down to a generality for all couples. To reduce the risk find someone who is from the type of place you are from. I am certain most women raised in St. Petersburg or Moscow would not be happy with me. I live a calm lifestyle in the suburbs, where the pace is slower. No theater, no opera, no fashion shows. Just Target and Wal-mart. City people have different expectations.

It isn't a hard and fast rule, but food for thought.

Look you guys. I did my homework, selected the girl I really liked, we met several times in Europe in wonderful locations, and now we work to get the lousy documents in order, so that she gets out of Russia for good. Sure the Russians spend money on weapons instead of on people and the girls there know that life will be easier, if they get out. What is wrong with that? There are no guarantees in life, but I had several wonderful weeks with a lovely woman, and nobody can take that away from me.

I am glad you brought that up. Sometimes we think that the way women and men choose a mate isn't the same everywhere. Every woman wants to know:

1) Are you financially stable.
2) Are you relationship material and ready to commit.
3) Are you a caring man.

Women in your country are thinking the same things, and they are watching you closely because of proximity. Nice car, nice apartment, nice cloths. You passed number one. Number two is discovered by dating you and asking you covert questions. Three is tested in a hundred ways from calling you with a flat tire in the middle of the night to asking you to watch a sappy movie. At LP none of those things are possible. So they watch how you write, how often, if you write just one lady, how often you log on to LP, and they ask you off the wall questions to see how you respond. Same process different methods. So accept it!

Sure life is easier outside of Russia, the men are kinder and more faithful, higher standard of living, better laws and more freedom. She gets this, and in return you get a wife that is strong enough to leave all she knows and move to a foreign land. A woman 10% less likely to divorce you than a local girl. A woman who will let you be the man and respect you as long as you cherish her and treat her well. A woman who will appreciate you and take care of you, and is almost certainly more beautiful than you deserve or could attract locally. From my point of view we get the best end of the deal!

I looked at 1000 women, messaged 35, corresponded with 10. Got serious about finding my wife and picked three, and hit my perfect match on the first try. Pulled my profile after a week of detailed messages in both directions, told her she was the one I wanted. She was giddy and pulled hers also. Said goodbye to the others, wished them luck. We have tested each other in every imaginable way. We Skype every day, I write her and describe our life every night before I sleep. We meet soon, in 6-8 months we have the visa, 9 to 11 we are married. You have to put yourself out there, be completely honest, and be bold. She is here guys!

I would like to agree with it and to object simultaneously to it. No, no this is the specification only.
The ladies "independent age», like me(54), for example, hand over for the manager of agency all set of documents: a passport copy, documents on formation(diploma university), documents on a residing place (apartment or the house), documents on children (even about adult children), a home photo of real time. If the lady submits wrong data herself personally it will be called a deceit. At last, we are "real" truthful and natural on a site. And what?... Many gentlemen put the old photos with younger age, diminish the age in the questionnaire, place the small himself photo on a landscape, place empty the questionnaire. Sometimes there is an answer, impossible for reading of the person owning small English, the letter can abound with interjections, difficulties of translator. Communications decreases because of it. I do not know what to think and what to do with it too!
Serious search of second half is expensive action for both parties. If the serious choice was happened; this problem can be solved by combined efforts both, for example is made. We solved it: the gentleman has bought the ticket to Russia and visa rates only.
I will be grateful to all who will show attention to stated here.

It is ironic the original message was from RustyHammer, who has found a lady and has met her in Belarus (IIRC). I will say, this is the ONLY site I would recommend for dating outside my country.

I wonder about men and women who lie here. What is gained? You meet an angry and disappointed partner after months of messages. Perhaps it is some type of enjoyment but if you have lied, why would you meet! All is corrected by using Skype. My lady coaxed me onto Skype after a week, she was gentle but firm. She was right, it was a test we both had to pass. If you aren't willing to take a test, you fail and are eliminated. It is simple. The test will come, so always be honest!