Men? Why are you on this site?

I would simply say "I have friends, but no one special"

I see very nice diplomatic answer.
Did you notice - anyway the answer "no". ...I think useless to ask
Even if she has may be you would be the best one in the world for her just give each other a chance to find out.

Im thinking Olga has a spark for you mr jscottv... .

Don't be envy.... I have a spark for all of you boys adore clever men

As for mr jscottv I am sure everything is all right with his relationship - he has found his soul-mate...and his meeting would be really like a cherry at the top of the cake because he built his relationship with passion step by step...I am really glad about him. We had heard several nice stories from the people from this site - they are happy together (... Alena and Mick for example - beautiful honest couple).... I am sure jscottv would be one of such happy people.

Not difficult to build just to be honest and have respect...not forget to worn that you can't be on link, to show that you are real by some present or flowers...to tell the real date of your visit - i don't know what else - may be jscottv shall explain you better what did he do to get such relations and don't be afraid about meeting.

My post above was for men who are still instead of building something great try to find out has the girl or hasn't somebody else. They put their efforts for something empty...I can't find useful words to explain. I know it is possible the man asks his friend to write the lady he is speaking with in order to check her...ok suppose he has found out she writes and what???? he stops speaking - who is happy after? what for did he try to find out the well known fact instead of do all possible steps she forgets all other men

I have never asked, I feel if she is communicating with me then she is free, and if she did have a boyfriend she must be unhappy........so a yes or no answer would mean nothing anyway.

Perhaps it’s just me but I question a person's morals if the have a boyfriend or girlfriend but are searching for someone else on a dating site. It seems very deceitful and dishonest, I personally would not want someone in my life who has chosen to cheat on there boyfriend or girlfriend. And yes I do see it as cheating to give your love to one while seeking another.

Mike, you only write to each other. Not plan exatly date of meeting. Think woman can find different men also, because if after 6 months letters you says i don't want flight she need start her search again.

Mike glad that you are not offended and still here
Different opinions and experience is better

Mike, you only write to each other. Not plan exatly date of meeting. Think woman can find different men also, because if after 6 months letters you says i don't want flight she need start her search again.


There is a vast difference between having a boyfriend or girlfriend and writing others. If you are in a relationship meaning you have a boyfriend or girlfriend but you are actively seeking a new boyfriend or girlfriend then you are being deceitful. Some think it is a backup plan. (Well if this relationship does not work I will move to plan B). This is a plan for failure. If I have made a commitment to a lady and she is my girlfriend then I would never disrespect her or myself by seeking another.

I would suggest you consider other countries besides Ukraine and Russia in your search.
Sexual activity is quite higher in those countries than average. As Olga said, places like Ukraine and Kalingrad have high increasing rates of aids.

After a couple of drinks, one very respectable Ukraine lady informed me she was still having a regular sex relationship with her ex-husband, a doctor. You have to expect it with ladies there, otherwise it is just an illusion you are chasing.

I'm sorry I don't buy into the idea every women cheats there...

ALSO...

According to the CDC the rising incidence of aids in Ukraine is primarily focused on people working in the sex trade and drug users. Even if you did distribute occurrence evenly, and totally ignored the distribution weighting, there would be less than 2 girls per 100 people with aids as opposed to 1 girl per 100 in the US.

I think the odds of contracting are very low unless you are there to buy companionship.

A recent poll showed 70% of young Kiev ladies had been propositioned for sex for money.
Think about that if you are chasing ladies under 25 in Kiev or the beach resorts.

Propositioned doesn't mean they they accepted, it just means they were asked.

I would bet if you conducted a similar poll in a major city here in the US, and asked the same question, you would get similar results.

I WOULD agree that if you are on a sex tour of some sort to Kiev you may be asking for trouble; but, I would not be afraid of getting aids from the average eastern european lady. At least no more so than from an average girl here in the US.

In fact, THE BIRTH RATE, of unmarried teenage girls in the US is twice as high as that of other developed countries... a scary fact, that should tell you something... AND a SAD fact is there are nearly twice as many children with aids in the US as in eastern europe.

Please bear in mind however that all of these numbers are VERY low compared to total population.

Thank you! 100% agree!
I was really angry with the man who goes from country to country and crushes women's hearts.... yes I did wanted to scare him and such sex-tourists also
but I see rogerm222 can tell terrible night tales better then I do